A thought just occurred to me:
As long as I’m a Bay Area resident, I’ll have a higher chance at getting laid than I will at getting a boyfriend/lover/fiance/husband. This is compounded by the fact that I identify as a gay trans man & gender non-conformist. If I do find someone desirable, they’re usually from online and live thousands of miles away. It may just be my experience, but the people who live in the middle of nowhere get partners, but the people in cities with 3 million people in them get nothing!
Occasionally I find some people who are living in the Bay Area but for some reason or another, it doesn’t work out. I’ll want them, and they’ll tell me I’m awesome, but they don’t want me because I’m too young/too old/not on testosterone/too “feminine” (puke-sauce)/not cheerful enough/too disabled/too much like a sibling to them/too much like a baby to them so they feel weird about seeing me sexually—or just a lack of chemistry. Or they’re someone I really want, but they will be partnered already (having found someone in the Bay Area by a miracle). Or they’re someone I want, but found a partner in some other state/country then moved to the Bay Area with their partner because it’s so great here (notice the sarcasm) Or they might want me, but they are REALLY bad for me! I better learn to love myself A LOT, cuz it looks like all I’m gonna have is ME!
Skye83 